Our Growing Family: Adopting from Haiti

Adoption...it is an exciting and yet somewhat frightening path to follow. I've decided to create a blog to describe this journey for several reasons: to document our adoption process, to help others who may have some of the same questions and concerns that we have or once had, and to share our experiences with our friends and family.

"Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor serving the Lord." --Romans 12:11

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Judson's first Christmas season

The first blizzard of the year—it seems like a good day to stay inside and update the blog.

Judson Elijah has now been home for almost five months, and the time has gone too fast. He’s growing so quickly and making great strides. He now weighs 16 ½ lbs and is 31 inches tall—quite tall for his age. Joey is counting on a basketball player for a brother. : )

Judson loves to talk and tries to imitate everything we say. “Deck the Halls” is his favorite Christmas carol as he likes to sing la la la la la—la la la la. He slams the football to the ground and yells, “touch down” and tells Gramma Bev’s dog Duke to “lay down.” He cannot say his first name yet, but says, “Elijah” quite well.

Christmas tree ornaments steeling is fun pastime at our house. The snowman is constantly disappearing, and Judson loves to shake the tree. One decoration that he doesn’t like is my dancing Frosty the Snowman. The stuffed snowman terrifies him when he starts wiggling his hips and waving his little green hat. Judson cries and runs for me with little outstretched arms. At least this is one ornament I can leave out without worrying that it will disappear.

We’ve recently started working on his medical visa renewal (his visa expires at the end of Jan.), and are praying that the government will grant him another six months in the U.S., so he can stay while we wait for his adoption in Haiti to be finalized.

Please keep him in your prayers over this Christmas season. We love you, and wish you and your family a blessed Christmas.

For God so loved the world that He gave is one and only Son that whosoever believes in Him shall not parish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Let's Count Our Blessings

I cannot believe Thanksgiving is here already. When I reflect on this past year, my heart expands. We have so much to be thankful for this holiday season. The Lord is so faithful to those who serve him; that is something I will never doubt. I remember how we prayed to bring Judson home. It is true the Lord makes a way where there seems to be no way. If I took the time to list all the ways he's blessed us this year, it would take me another year to type it. Even in the hard times, the sad time, He was just as present as He was during the moments of joy. Friends, never doubt that the Lord loves you and that he is here for you every moment of every day.

God bless you!

Friday, October 15, 2010

Each day is a blessing

Each day when I look at Judson I cannot believe all God has done. This little boy, his health, his simply being here in the U.S., is such a testimony to how awesome and faithful God is. There are no limits to the His power, and the way He takes care of those who serve Him. It amazes me to think that Judson shouldn’t be home for at least another year, and yet here he is.


I watch Judson when he sleeps; I listen to his laughter when he’s playing with Jerry, Rozii and Joey; I smile when he walks toward me his little legs shaking as he continues to work toward better balance (yes, he walks everywhere now), and I feel so blessed. If you are working on an adoption, don’t get discouraged by timelines, people, world events, etc. Look at God and nothing else because with prayer anything is possible. Each day I know it’s true.

Monday, September 27, 2010

Judson's dedication

Yesterday, September 26, 2010, Judson Elijah Haag was dedicated to the Lord at Praise Fellowship church. Judson’s dedication was something that we’ve been looking forward to since before he came home from Haiti. Haiti has a long history of Voodoo and the practice and rituals are still common among non-Christian Haitians. In fact, some who claim to be Christians still participate in Voodoo ceremonies and rituals. Childbirth is one place were these rituals are prevalent. In missionary Jeanne DeTellis’ book, she writes about a time she was asked to come and help save a mother who was having a difficult labor, mother and baby were in distress. When Jeanne arrived she found that the woman’s family and friends intended to call on Voodoo to save the mother and child, but they wanted Jeanne’s help as well. The Voodoo was a backup plan in case God didn’t come through. Jeanne stood her ground and said that the Voodoo had to go or she would let them die. There was no way she was going to allow them perform a satanic ritual if they wanted her help.


This is the type of background Judson comes from; Voodoo is everywhere in Haiti. It’s part of the culture, the history, and is still practiced by many Haitians today. Thankfully more and more people are turning to the one true God—Yahweh, and are becoming what they refer to as “converted.” They are learning of the love and forgiveness that can be found only in Jesus Christ. We are thankful that Judson will not have to grow up seeing Voodoo as something “normal.” Although we don’t know what happened to him during his mother’s pregnancy or the five months he lived with her before he was given up for adoption, we do know that he is covered in the blood of Jesus and that whatever may have happened in the past, is just that—in the past.

Congratulations on Judson Elijah on your dedication. We love you!!

Sunday, September 19, 2010

It has been eight weeks...

It is amazing how much our family has changed or at least seems to have changed since Judson came home eight weeks ago. This little boy has brought so much peace and joy into our home. We know we are walking in God’s will.

It also seems that Rozii and Joey have grown up recently. They used to argue so much more, but now they are usually kind and helpful to each other. And there isn’t so much complaining and bickering between them. This isn’t always the case of course or else they wouldn’t be siblings, but still, there is a peace between them that wasn’t there before. They love Judson so much and Rozii has given him the nickname “Baby J.,” which has stuck.

Rozii is talks constantly about her classes, colleges and her future goals. She looks differently at school this year than she has in the past. Amazingly enough, she’s decided to skip Driver’s Ed. this fall, as she feels her upcoming trip to Haiti is a more important use of finances. She has decided to live at home for the first few years of college and take her general credits at either UW—Sheboygan or Lakeland, and then has three Christian colleges that she’s picking from for the remainder of her bachelor’s degree. She wants to go full-time into the mission field as a youth pastor. Currently she is a junior youth leader for Element.

Joey has stepped out of his shell a great deal this year. In addition to his usual basketball season, he is the vice president of student council and a member of the safety patrol at Wilson. He is very excited about this additional responsibility. He is a very polite and kind-hearted young man who always thinks about the feelings of others.

It’s so exciting to watch our children grow and mature. They are such beautiful people and have amazing hearts for the Lord.

Thank you Father God.

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Judson's homecoming

Judson Elijah Haag came home from Haiti on July 24th, 2010 (7 weeks ago), one of the happiest days of our lives. He is a happy and loving little boy who enjoys interacting with his family and singing to music (in his own way--loudly), clapping his hands, and kicking his little feet. Laughing is part of his nature; he smiles easily. He crawls on all fours (hands and feet, not knees), and he took his first steps this week. I have a feeling that he’ll be walking by his first birthday (Oct. 1).


Medically he’s doing well too. Since his arrival he’s had a small procedure on his tongue, which went smoothly, and he’s no longer tongue-tied. He was incredibly cute as he just sat there looking at the doctor with curiosity and didn’t shed a tear throughout minor surgery.

Currently Judson weighs 15.4 lbs and is 28 ½ inches long. When he arrived in the U.S., he was 13.2 lbs. He is still at zero percent for weight on the standard growth chart but is making significant gains. He arrived from Haiti with ear infections in both ears and for five weeks we tried multiple types of antibiotics. Today Judson’s ears are improving but one still isn’t quite where it should be.

God has blessed us with a remarkable little boy to love. He has brought our family closer together and teaches us new things about what it means to love every day. Thank you Lord. Your Word is true. You are a faithful God who hears the prayers of those who serve You.

I just want to say thank you to our friends and family who have been praying for us during this time of transition. We appreciate you more than words can say.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Getting Ready to Leave for Haiti

It's funny how the most mundane tasks, like copying papers for the medical visa, can be exciting. And yet here I am jumping out of my skin about a visit to the copy machine. The Lord tells us to live our lives in anticipation, expecting him to show up and do what is impossible for us to do on our own.  This entire journey has been God showing up. From the doctors who agreed to treat Judson free of charge for the visa to the paperwork that passed through the Haitian consulate in three hours--God has shown up. It is amazing to see His work in action.

Thank you Lord Jesus for the way you show up. Thank you that we can rely on you because while we are weak, you are strong...our rock and our deliverer.

It seems sureal that in three days I'll be holding Judson. Please keep us in prayer. We will ALL be home by Aug. 8 if not sooner.
Love Always,
Laurie

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Leaving July 16th for Haiti

I cannot believe I leave this week for Haiti, and on July 16th (my birthday). What an awesome gift, to hold my son in my arms again and bring him home!!

Here is the scoop: We have Judson’s passport, which is a BIG DEAL; however, we are still finalizing details for the medical visa, and it has not yet been approved. That said, we have met all the requirements, and it should not take long to get it approved once we submit our application and documentation. The director of the orphanage said that he cannot see any reason why Judson should not be able to return home with us.

God is in control in this situation and in all situations when I stop trying to do everything myself and trust in Him. He makes a way where there seems to be no way. He works everything for the good of those who serve him and keep his commands. I have no doubt that the paperwork will be approved in a timely manner and Judson will be coming home with us.

My friends, I do ask you to cover us in prayer. Judson has been quite ill but is doing better now. However, he needs to get to the States. Please pray for his health and for the business that must be completed with the Embassy in Haiti. Ask for the Lord’s will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

“Sovereign LORD, you have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and outstretched arm. Nothing is too hard for you.”- Jeremiah 32:17
Thank you for your prayers and continued support.

—Love Always

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Medical Visa

We've had some interesting news this week regarding to medical visa. It seems that all our paperwork is complete and ready to go to the embassy, yet because the woman who is working on our visa is out of Haiti right now, everything has been delayed a little. But to be honest I'm so thrilled that it's done that this doesn't worry me. I just keep reminding myself that God's timing is perfect, and that although I might not understand why, He has a reason and He is in control. Thank you Lord Jesus.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Loving the Children of Haiti

Jesus said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these." --Matthew 19:14. As I watch the video from the recent trip to Haiti, my heart swells with love for the children. They are so innocent, so pure, and their hearts are ripe for the love of Jesus. That is how the Lord calls us all to be. Whether we live in the United States, Haiti or some other place, we are to live our lives searching for His kingdom and His righteousness. In the book of James one verse that really stands out to me (this is a paraphrase) says, true religion is to care for orphans and widows and to not let ourselves be polluted by the world. Children have not yet been polluted by the sin the world offers. And as adults in this world, we are to love and nurture these children, to protect their innocence, and teach them the ways of Jesus.


I'm many times asked about the work we do in Haiti, and yet I feel that my responses are inadequate. How do I express a burden that God has put on my heart and make others grasp what I'm feeling? I can't. I can show pictures and tell stories, stories that many times bring my listeners to tears or gives them goose bumps. But I'm not sure how to communicate my feeling, my love for the people of Haiti, my need to help ease their suffering -- to bring them food, supplies, and most importantly the hope of Jesus Christ. It is that hope that is going to change the country of Haiti beyond a simple meal that I may be able to provide. It is that hope that will give them a future. Haitians are beautiful people inside and out, and God loves hurting people; He sees their needs and hears their cries, and as true followers of Christ we are called to do the same. Adoption...that is one way I can make a difference, but I love the children and the adults far beyond one child, my child. So while I wait for Judson to come home, my heart aches not just for him, but for all the children and I pray for the Lord to send people, people with a heart for children, for Haitians, into that country to bring the hope of salvation.

People sometimes ask: what can I do in Haiti? I have no special training like a doctor or nurse, so what could I do to help? My response is simple, can you hold a child? Can you love a child? If you are willing to sit and rock a baby, to play games with children, to hold someone’s hand, your love is needed in Haiti. For every three months a child spends in an orphanage, that child is one month behind a child who grows up in a loving home. These children need attention and interaction. They need things as simple as eye contact and to engage with people. The ladies who work in the orphanage are wonderful loving people but there are too few of them for all the children who need love. It was estimated that before the earthquake there were over 100,000 orphans in Haiti. Can you imagine how many more there are today?

Saturday, June 12, 2010

The Waiting Game

Each day I think about writing a new post for all our friends, family, or whoever wants to read our blog, but then I think . . . why? I have nothing new to say. Each day is another day of the waiting game, which seems never ending. But then I look at the big picture and think about how fast life goes by; Rosey is now in 10th grade and Joey 5th. Where did the time go?

This week we were sent pictures of Judson crawling...unbelievable. And even though he weighs only 11 lbs or so at eight months old, he looks healthy. His expressions are lively and engaging. He laughs easily and takes a few steps if you hold on to his hands. His skin and hair show no signs of malnourishment. I thank God for his health and pray that he continues to thrive inspite of his inablility to eat beyond a bottle. If I look past missing him, I have a lot to be thankful for and a great deal to write about.

Saturday, May 22, 2010

Preparing for Judson's arrival

Preparing for Judson's arrival has been fun. I painted his room this brilliant blue color and put up a Haitian Tap-Tap on the wall. It looks exactly as I hoped it would. Then today I purchased a car seat at a garage sale. I found a really nice one that I couldn't pass up. The lady who sold it to me has two adoptive children of her own, and I thought that was pretty cool.

I haven't put up a crib yet or done too much shopping for baby stuff because I want to make sure that Judson's actually going to get the medical visa before I do too much. It looks good from what I've been told. And I'm praying for June 15, 2010, but the timing is all in God's hands, and I have peace about that.

These verses from James 1 have been my comfort and strength this week:  "...count it all joy to you when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing." James 1:2-4

Our Father knows exactly the words of encouragement we need in times of trials. My friends, turn to Him when life gets difficult or worrisome and let Him lead you.

Love Always,
Laurie

Monday, May 17, 2010

Waiting...

I have never been good at waiting. Waiting my turn...waiting for Christmas...waiting for my husband to propose. I have never been good at these things, and to be honest, I've never really had to wait for anything in my life, at least not like this. God is teaching me something I'm sure of it, even if I don't know exactly what that is.

When we decided to adopt, I knew I'd have to wait a long time, but it is so different to know this and to experience it. Some days I physically ache for my son to come home. I'm sure it wouldn't be like this if I hadn't spent that week with him in Haiti, and yet I'd run all the way to Haiti if I could just to spend an hour holding him, smelling him. I wonder about this mothering thing. Do fathers feel like this too? I know my husband cannot wait for Judson to be home, and yet, he is so much stronger than I am.

Someone said recently that this wait is just like being pregnant, but it's not. If I were pregnant my child would be with me. I keep thinking of Jesus' parable of the lost sheep. The man left the 99 sheep to find the one that was lost. My children here, Rosey and Joey, are safe and with me, but little Judson is in someone else's arms...I hope, but I fear he's lying in a crib alone because there are so many babies in need of love and attention and too few arms to give it.

The Lord is my Deliverer. He is my Rock and my Strength, my ever present Hope in time of need. I cling to this truth and ask the Lord to teach me something, anything during this time of waiting. Change my character...teach me to be more Christ-like, so this time of waiting will not be in vein.

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Lord show me Your glory

It has been quite awhile since I last gave an update on our medical visa. I have to confess I've been sad and have not trusted God enough in these last few weeks. I've been obsessing and stressing over this whole finding an ENT to do the surgery and finding a doctor to provide Judson's post-op treatment (all of this must be donated for the medical visa), but God is faithful, and in my weakness His glory is revealed. I praise him every day that he doesn't forget me or my family.

Today I can say God has provided both of these physicians, and it wasn't anything I did. I have amazing friends and family who have helped me a great deal, but more than that God has taught me more about his incredible love for us. Thank you Jezi (Jesus in Creole).

Today I'm painting a bedroom for Joey and Judson. Joey is incredibly excited to share a room with his brother, so we are working on pulling that all together. I'm moving forward, knowing that God is in control and that His timing is perfect. This morning I read 2 Samuel 22. In this passage David gives glory to God for all he has done for him. It is a beautiful passage. I encourage you to pull out your Bible and read it. It's a great reminder of how much the Lord loves His people.

Well, my break is over. Time to get back to painting.

Sunday, April 18, 2010

News on the medical visa

God is so faithful and His timing and His will are perfect. I just need to hold on to this truth every single day. When I have no words to say or my tears just say it all, He is there for me. Some days lately I don't know how I'm going to get through another day knowing that my child is in an orphanage, lying in a bed, having a difficult time eating and gaining weight. But God is with him and God is faithful.

This week I've seen miracles happen. I've seen our paperwork that should have taken months pass through the Haitian consulate in a matter of hours. God is in this adoption.

Today I received an email from our contact in Haiti. She works in obtaining medical visas for Haitian children and has graciously offered to help us obtain a medical visa for Judson, but she's not sure if it's possible. There are two obstacles that we need to overcome, and if we do, he should be able to come here for the surgery. First we have to check with hospitals in Haiti to find out if the procedure can be done there. If it can, then he stays in Haiti for the surgery, but if not, he can come to the U.S. She is going to work on finding this information for us this week.

Second, we need to find a doctor and hospital willing to donate the procedure. She said this is my homework this week. I don't even know where to begin, but I have wonderful Christian friends in the medical field, and I will be relying on them a lot to get us through this part.

Once he is here, it is uncertain if he will be able to stay or if he will need to return to the orphanage after he is healed. But that is not my main concern right now.

My friends, I'm asking you to pray for Judson: pray that he is able to come here to the U.S., to his home, for this surgery and his healing; pray for favor with the Haitian government in obtaining this visa.
Thank you. We appreciate your love & support.

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Time to start the medical visa

I heard from Dr. Bernard today at New Life Link. I absolutely love it when he refers to Judson (this is the correct spelling ) as "your son." Yes, he is my son, even if he's not living in our home yet, and I miss him so much. Dr. B. said that he will do everything he can to assist us with the medical visa; however, it has to be us pushing for this visa to happen because there isn't much he can do on his end. Doctors, congressmen, senators--these are the people who may be able to sway USCIS to bring him home quickly. But God is bigger than all of them together.

This is my prayer:
Father God, I know your timing is perfect, but you tell us in your Word to bring all things to you in prayer. Therefore, I'm asking that if it is your will, please give us wisdom and guidance as to how to bring Judson home quickly so he can have the surgery he needs and bond with our family. I pray for favor with the government officials and expediancy with the necessay paperwork. I ask this in the name of Jesus, Amen.

God has been at work in this adoption from the beginning, and I trust Him to bring Judson home.

Monday, April 12, 2010

Jetson's on Youtube

I just found this amazing discovery. The team that was in Haiti the week before us made a beautiful Youtube video and Jetson is in it. Check it out.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0rA9yPbTjqI

God is so faithful

We got awesome news today. The Haitian consulate called and the legalization of our paperwork is complete. The most amazing part is that we just sent it out on Friday, and it didn't arrive at the consulate until this morning. Talk about God at work--one day!

Yesterday we also got a nice suprise. The team that just returned from Haiti posted pictures on FaceBook; there were several pictures of Jetson. Even though I'm not the one holding him, it is such a blessing to see that my child is safe and being loved on. That alone is an answer to prayer. I feel so blessed.

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Meeting Jetson at New Life Link in Haiti

On March 20th my daughter Rosey and I arrived in Port-au-Prince, Haiti. This was my third trip to Haiti and Rosey’s first. We took a team of 23 from Wisconsin and met up with another group of 20 from other areas of the United States. Brent Gambrell Ministries organized the trip, and Brent led the team.

The airport in Port-au-Prince has changed quite a bit since the earthquake. Baggage claim and immigration and customs are inside an airplane hanger. All the baggage is dumped on a pile and people wade through it looking for their bags. Outside the airport hundreds of people crowd the streets hoping to help new arrivals and receive tips. This is nerve racking; however, the translators were waiting for us outside the gate and we crossed the street to a big green bus, which we took through Port-au-Prince and up the mountain to New Life Link’s Bethel Guesthouse.

This week changed my life for many reasons, but the most important being that we met our son, Judson Candy who is called Jetson by Dr. Bernard and his staff. Rosey was the first one to find him. We knew that we might receive our referral for our son while in Haiti, and actually, we had been praying about it and trusting God that it would happen. Anyway, like I said Rosey found him lying in a crib in the back room of the crèche. His biological mother had just given him up on Monday and we met him on Saturday. He was in failure to thrive, at nearly six months old he weighed just 10 lbs. He didn’t even cry when he was hungry. In addition Jetson has a tongue-tie, so he won’t be able to eat food or speak until he has that fixed. When Dr. Bernard offered us Jetson to adopt, I was unsure what to do or say as I’d been praying for that moment for so long and it was finally here. I just kept saying, I need to call my husband, and I did. Immediately Jerry (my husband) and I knew he would be our son. On Monday night Jetson moved into the guesthouse with us, and although he stayed in the crèche when we went out to work, he spent the week with us.

This is what our weekly schedule looked like:

Saturday: We arrived at NLL late in the afternoon. We unpacked, played with the babies in the crèche and had dinner. At night we had devotions and a team meeting. Saturday afternoon was the first time we met Jetson.

Sunday: In the morning we went to church in Port-au-Prince with Julie, Melo and other children from the crèche. In the afternoon we sorted the approximately 4,000 lbs of food, medical supplies, hygiene products, shoes, etc that we brought with us. The food was for the orphanages, and the medical supplies were for families, the medical clinic we held in Canez, and for area hospitals and clinic (approximate 40,000 dollars worth of donated medical supplies went into Port-au-Prince). Again, we spent time loving on children at the crèche before evening dinner.

Monday & Tuesday: We spent two days working at the crèche. During the earthquake the original crèche collapsed, but all the children and workers made it to safety. But since then the babies moved into the crèche at the Bethel Guesthouse. There was very limited storage, and everything was just thrown in there without any system of organization. We built and stained shelves, setup and organized the rooms for the children, and those with special skills worked on electrical and mechanical issues with appliances and such. In addition, half of our team went into Port-au-Prince to help with building homes for widows. One of New Life Link’s new projects is building homes for the widows from the church who lost their families and homes in the earthquake. Tuesday afternoon, many of our team went to the older children’s orphanage while others of us stayed to work at the crèche.

Wednesday: We went to the village of Canez. It took about 3-4 hours to reach Canez, which is located in the desert north of Port-au-Prince. Here lived the poorest people I’ve ever encountered in Haiti. There were 68 homes on a beautiful lake of salt, which the people cannot drink from. Instead they walk 1 ½ hours a day for drinking water. The children have orange hair from malnutrition. And aside from their small straw huts the people have no place to get out of the hot sun.

When we drove down the road toward the village, the people saw us coming and were dancing and clapping. Some of the girls could not stop touching our white skin and kept saying, “bel, bel,” meaning beautiful. We visited each home with the gospel, and found most people were Christians. There is a small Haitian church which comes to the village occasionally to share the gospel; however, they are poor too and have no way to help with the physical needs of the people.

We gave each family three large bags of hygiene products, shoes, and clothing. They also received a first-aid kit and children’s and adult Tylenol. Each family received a 50 lb. bag of rice and we held a medical clinic where the ill and injured were treated by one of the five nurses on our team. Those in need of it received prescription medications. (Since we left Canez, the team that came after us constructed a huge wooden shelter and there are plans for clean water, a goat farm, a church, and a school.) All of this is sponsored by New Life Link.

The people of Canez were very grateful, seeing our arrival as an answer to their faithfulness and prayers. One woman said, “I don’t see people; I see Jesus.” Eight people gave their lives to Christ that day.

Thursday: Some of us worked at the crèche helping and playing with the children: Each baby received a baby massage with conditioning lotion and had their nails clipped and filed. Some of the babies had been scratching themselves with their untrimmed nails. The babies were played with and given individual attention. In the afternoon we held a pool party and the children got to go swimming.

The other members of the team went to the older children’s orphanage were they stocked shelves with food, gave out schools supplies; the boys also received soccer balls, board games, backpacks, and deodorant; the girls received nail polish, body sprays, lip gloss, flip flops, combs, and sunglasses. Each child received a flashlight.

The construction team spent the day at the homes for widows; they continued the cement work and assisted the other Haitian volunteers from the church.

Friday: We spent the morning at the Baptist mission. We shopped in the stores and bakery and visited the church, medical clinic, and small zoo. There is also an orphanage at the mission. In the afternoon we played with the children at the crèche.

Saturday: We left for the airport.

Each night we had devotions and many testimonies were shared.

I worked at the crèche as much as possible so I could spend time with Jetson. He slept in a pack and play in our room; he’s a good sleeper usually sleeping 8-10 hours a night. We tried without success to get him to eat baby food, but due to being tongue-tied this wasn’t possible. I pray every day that we can get him home soon so that he can have what will be a simple procedure in the U.S. but what is a major surgery in Haiti, not to mention the unsanitary conditions for healing.

This was an amazing week. I cannot describe the heartache we encountered, and every time I turn on the shower I think of the people without water in Canez. It has been a tough adjustment coming home, and I cannot wait to return this summer--return to the work and to Jetson. When I’m in Haiti, my life has such purpose, and I feel God's presence constantly. The poverty, the need is overwhelming and yet the people are loving and generous. I still cannot fully understand all we saw, heard, and experienced, but God is in Haiti and his love is flowing there.

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Home Study Complete!

It has been an exciting and busy two weeks. During this time we had several visits with our social worker to complete our home study. I thought I would have a lot to say about this process, but I don't. Instead I'm just anxious to move into the next phase of our adoption.

Today we went to Milwaukee for a Parent Education class. We learned a lot about what to expect the first few weeks when our son comes home and were able to meet several couples who are adopting domestically and internationally. It was an emotional day. We listened to the stories of other adoptive couples whose children are now home. It just made the desire to bring our son home that much stronger.

I cannot believe that RoseAnna and I leave for Haiti on Friday. We are praying that the Lord opens doors for us in Haiti and with the agency so that we can receive our referral while we are there and meet our little boy. Jerry and I made a stop on our way home from Milwaukee and purchased a blanket and stuffed teddy bear for him. We're planning to sleep with them all week so they smell like us, and then take them to Haiti for him. I'm trusting that we'll meet him, and if not this trip, we'll leave the items there for him once we are matched. That's why God made zip-lock bags... to seal in our scent. : )

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Chugging Along...

I cannot believe we leave for Haiti in a little over three weeks. No this is not to get our child (I wish!), but rather to work at the orphanage--a one week mission trip. I keep hoping the God will make a way for us to meet our son, but I also know that that is unlikely at this time. Dr. Bernard, the orphanage director, said it's not impossible to have a referral done before the final paperwork arrives, but it's not recommended. Either way I'm going to hug and kiss each little guy and take lots of pictures!!

As far as the paperwork, it is coming along really well. We are nearly finished with the homestudy, and before I leave for Haiti, all the documents should be gathered for our dossier. God willing they will be sent off to the Secretary of State for Apostille before we leave. It should not be long before the paperwork is complete and the REAL waiting begins. But I try to think of it as an opportunity for the Lord to refine my character and make me a more patient person. : )

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Unavoidable Issues

Today, like everyday, we worked on our requirements for our home study and dossier. In the beginning the paperwork seemed overwhelming, but now it has become part of our daily routine. Everyday I have to get at least one item crossed off my list. Today that item was taking an online course with my hubby.

For the state of Wisconsin we have to take several courses through Adoption Learning Partners (see link in the list on the left). At first I thought the idea of taking parenting courses seemed like a joke because we've been raising our children for the last 14 years; however, there is a lot that we haven't really considered. The idea of having a child with a detachment disorder is a real possibility, one that we've been avoiding. Also, we know we are not racist nor are our family or friends, but our child may have to deal with race issue when he enters a white family. People are going to know he's adopted without even asking. These are conversations we need to have as a couple and with our children. We know we will love him if he's any color under the rainbow; that is not an issue for us. But unfortunately not everyone feels this way. I'm glad we took these courses, not because we learned anything new,  but because it enabled us as a couple to talk about issues that are sometimes are taken for granted or avoided.

Friday, February 12, 2010

Thank God for Helpful Hearts

I cannot say how thankful I am for the people who have been helping us navigate this process. Paperwork...paperwork...paperwork. And not all of it is easy to follow or understand. But God has blessed us with friends who have adopted from Haiti and other countries and are willing to share their experiences and knowledge. I don't know what I would do with out them.

Sunday, February 7, 2010

The Journey Begins...

The desire to adopt a child had been eating away at me for years. When I first brought it up to my husband, Jerry, he thought I was crazy. He said he liked having older children; we had more freedom to be a couple without worrying about car seats and diaper bags. Today Joey is in fourth grade and Rosey is a freshman.


This was hard for me because the nagging desire to have more children would not go away. I cannot have more of my own children, and even if I could I knew I wanted to adopt. My husband and I spend time every year working in schools and orphanages in third world countries, and I just knew this was from where we should adopt.

I brought up the topic several times, before feeling it was hopeless. Finally, the last time my husband said he would pray about it. But I didn’t ask him if he was really seeking God on this issue. I just prayed. Finally, after about six months of praying, begging God to change my husband’s mind, I told God that if He intended us to adopt He would have to change Jerry’s heart; I surrendered my desire to Him.

The day after the earthquake in Haiti Jerry looked at me and said, "It’s time. Let’s do it." I must have asked him six billion times if he was serious, and each time he said he was; he said that this was the Lord and that we should adopt a child from Haiti.

Our children Rosey and Joey were so excited. Right way Joey said he wanted a little brother and bunk beds. He blathered on and on about teaching him to play basketball and skateboard and all the endless things they would do together. Joey has been asking for a little brother for years.

We wanted to get started right way. And because of the work I’ve been doing in Haiti since 2006, it wasn’t difficult to find an agency. We are working with New Life Link (their website is listed under ‘Adoption Links’ on the left side of the page). We requested a boy between the ages of one and three years old because by the time he gets to the United States he could be as old as five.

Next, a friend recommended the Children’s Hope Network as a place for us to contact regarding the home study. This is a huge process and takes at least six to eight weeks, if not more. We also submitted our i600a form to the government right away, and next week we will travel to Milwaukee to get our fingerprints taken.

I’ve never been so overwhelmed by paperwork in my life. But the Lord is faithful and my husband is a constant encouragement. Last night we divided up some of the paperwork and phone calls, and today we registered for the online classes we have to take for the state of Wisconsin.

I trust God that all this will flow smoothly, and before we know it, we will bring our son home.